"Unfortunately, most of us are so eager to formulate the best answer and then begin implementing it that individuals often forget to think about whether the right question has been asked." - Clayton M. Christensen
We have all heard the maxim, "Ask a foolish question - obtain a foolish answer." Where it's said in jest, there is certainly still much truth available there. The type of questions you may ask will determine the type of answer you obtain. Proper questioning is absolutely one of the most powerful and useful tools we have in the learning process. All of us ask questions to others or to ourselves. Your brain processes hundreds of thousands of questions every day. They can range from what you should eat for breakfast to what is the meaning of life. This is another one, if you ask so many questions, wouldn't the type of question your brain has got to answer matter?
Tony Robbins, well-known author and speaker use it this way, "Quality questions develop a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers." So what exactly is a better question? Better questions are only ones that will provide you with the answer you truly need. They inspire, motivate and make you think. A better question will encourage and move you. It doesn't depress, discourage or devalue you.
Many success-minded people face two key problems of their search for self-improvement. One is that they can feel they must always have an answer. When my children were growing up, I prefer to tell them that they can could always ask me any question they wanted. Basically did not know the answer, I might make one up. To this day, they are discovering that its not all I told them was so. For us, that was a great game we had, nevertheless for many, it is the reality of life. They're so concerned with through an answer they will make it up rather than say they do not know. We have all experienced this in life and to this day we're finding that not all we were told is really true.
This practice of giving answers come from our thinking that to question questions is foolish or causes us to look stupid. The truth is, the opposite is true. Merely the foolish do not ask questions. Baseball great Tom Connelly said, "He who asks a matter may be a fool for five minutes, but he who never asks something remains a fool forever."
Questions assist us to learn and to be creative and productive. Perhaps you have noticed that people who generally all the answers do little utilized to? It is the questions we ask that open exciting and new doors for us to pass through.
"It is better to know a few of the questions than all of the answers." - James Thurber
The other problem we face is many of us do not know how to ask good questions. Sadly, we were not taught this in school. We were given information (much of which was incorrect) and our job was to learn the information, not to question it. We've developed a culture where the dream of being something you like to be has been substituted for, "Do what I say. I am aware better." Adults and kids alike are criticized and belittled if you are creative or asking lots of questions. We are told to believe our side the box and yet placed in a smaller box all the time. Education adjusted from learning to being told things to think.
I am not against education. I really believe we should all learn up to we can for the rest of our life. However , the system we reside in does not educate. We are taught facts, what actually transpired in the past and what can be done. Real education is teaching website visitors to think. Question the important points, think of new things and see the unknown. More will be done with a little imagination by purchasing a lot of learning. As Albert Einstein said, "Logic provide from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere."
I wish to talk about some techniques to excite your thinking and questioning. These are a few ideas for learning how to ask yourself better, more inspiring questions which will allow you to soar higher than the crowd and display the creative genius that human kind were born with.
Contemplate, "What am I not seeing?"
Just about the most restrictive statements people make is, "I'll accept is as true when I see it." Or else you will always find people who smugly say, "I don't believe in anything I can not see with my own eyes." That is certainly just foolish. Every day life is full of things we presume and never see. Truly success-minded folks are more likely to ask the question, "What one thing I am not seeing?" Precisely what are you missing? What's happening behind the scenes or hidden from common sight? The question, "What am I not seeing?" permits you to explore new possibilities and replace limited thinking with imagination and creativity. This inquiry will allow you to see what is really happening in times. You can explore the possibilities that what appears to be the problem is not really the challenge. These are the discoveries which make the difference between standing still and true success.
There's always an element of risk in communicating with them. One is that you may not have the answer you are looking for. We've often told individuals who I have coached "Don't ask questions you really do not want strategies to." What I mean from this is not to stop asking them questions, but to understand that this answer may be very complicated then the question. Asking quality questions would mean taking action when you find an answer or in order to find an answer. If you see what needs to change, an individual has a responsibility to do something about it. I believe it is the fear of having to take action and responsibility that produces many not to inquire. Sadly, when it comes to success, ignorance is just not bless.
Ask "What if" questions
Individuals who have had children, existed children or been a child, knows the frustration how the question "Why?" can cause. My oldest daughter Beth, when she was about three years old, was filled with questions. Each day on our walk, she would hit me with deep philosophical questions like, "What props up sidewalk up?" "Where do worms sleep?" "Where do the stars go in the daytime?" To start with, these questions would be funny little exchanges we will have. After a time however, in all honesty, they made me nuts! I did so later come to recognize that they were in fact great questions. This is one way a child learns. They question everything. That which you see as foolish is certainly vital information for the children. Can you see how by teaching children only what we want them to know keeps them from learning what they desire to know? In time, so you need little more proof this than just investigating our youth, they stop communicating with them and in the end they stop learning.
Imagine if, we helped our kids find answers to those questions? What if, we inspired adults to start asking "silly" questions and helped these to find answers? Imagine if, that idea you have had floating within your brain for so long happened? What if, that dream you've had for your life was achieved? Let's say, you could not fail at the goals you have for life and career? What if, is one of the most powerful of questions because if demands you to think in order to find an answer. Facts and opinions cannot answer the question of what if. Only imagination, creativity and ancient curiosity can answer that question. 18th century English writer, Samuel Johnson said, "Curiosity is one of the most permanent and certain characteristics of a vigorous intellect."
"There is often more to be learned from the unexpected questions of your child that the discourses in men." - John Locke
Think about, "How can this be done differently?"
For reasons unknown, people tend to do things the same way over and over again. Even when those ideas do not work or are not easy. We all know the Einstein definition of insanity: to do the same thing in the same way and expect different results. Success-minded people have a habit of seeing something and saying, "How can this be done better?" A fantastic example of this was the great Thomas A. Edison. Almost all of his fortune is made not from new inventions but from taking issues that already excised and which makes them better.
Just as many individuals feel they have to come with an answer all the time, many also feel that they must always do something new. If they develop an idea, it must be new and not done before. Consequently, they just don't come up with ideas. The number of have had the idea to get a new product that will save people time and money in their daily life. They take a seat on the idea only to see a store and find it in stock. What do they do then? They never it's similar to again. So much the skin loses due to a lack of imaginative thinking.
The greater way to approach things is as simple as the simple question, why made better? You skill differently? What is missing that will make this more useful and desirable? Most of what we see currently available are improved things not interesting things. Look how fast technology changes. It's not because there is something new but because what is there is something improved on. R&D departments spend millions on the way to improve on products when they go on the market. Why? Just like you do not improve your own products, somebody else will.
This principle applies to life as well. What in your life is not working as along with you would like it to? How can you improve it making it better? What exactly are you not doing which needs to be done? What are you doing you will want to stop? These questions will help you to move forward and to find productive answers. Do not ask unproductive questions like, "What shall we be doing wrong?" "Why can't I buy this right?" You don't need to know what not to do. You have that down pretty well. You should find out what you can do. Learn how to move forward and forget what didn't work.
Ask yourself, "Why not?"
Today, a lot more than any time in history, success-minded people realize that impossible is not a basis for lack of success. People perform the impossible every day. One and only thing that is impossible it to succeed with an impossible mindset. There's nothing impossible to the male or female who is willing to work tirelessly, ask good questions and stay with something until they achieve. Browse around you. Everything you see was impossible eventually in people's minds. Conversely, everything you see was simple to someone who was ready to go after it.
One of several great things about allowing your imagination to trust things are possible, would it be will never think everything is impossible again. Oliver Wendell Holmes said, "A mind that is certainly stretched by a new experience can not go back to its old dimensions." Success-minded people know that just because something is not done before does not mean it cannot be done. Actually, if someone has used it, even if they failed, it indicates that the idea is there. Where there are ideas, impossible unexpected things happen.
"Take the attitude of the student, never be too big to ask questions, don't know too much to learn something new." - Og Mandino
Some time for questions has become. Not the time for answers. Answers happen only once there are questions. Be brave. Have courage. Be willing to ask the question that is deep inside. The world is in need of great imaginative thinkers that are not afraid of asking difficult questions. Let me close with a few a quick question for you. What is all that you read here could actually work for you? What if you could discover answers to the questions you have always been unwilling to ask? Why can't you are the one to change the world? Why can't your idea or invention work? Imagine if you could not fail? What would you do? Go do it!